Proper Etiquette

The Essence of Good Southern Manners

Having good manners in our everyday actions is a way of life in the South.  Our manners stem from Southern hospitality.  Good manners make life more pleasant for everyone.  Having bad manners will make people question your upbringing.  Here is a popular quote from Southerners, "The manners that your children exhibit to you and to the public, are a direct reflection of you."

Good manners are not just for special occasions.  They are something you do everyday and everywhere.  Our friendships and relationships are based on how we treat others on a daily basis.  The great principle that guides all good manners is summed up most efficiently and exquisitely by Jesus Christ when He said, "So in everything, do unto others as you would them do unto you..." (Matthew 7:12).  This simple statement by Jesus is the basis of good Southern manners and hospitality.

Good manners do not ask you to give up life and limb.  Instead, it calls for civility and respect for others in words and deeds.  There is a balance to all things.  Good manners are important because everyone likes to be treated with respect, kindness, and courtesy.  Good manners are the rules that developed out of the need for one person to treat another person in a respectful, friendly, and courteous manner.  Children, like adults, like to feel important.  Good manners cause adults to welcome your presence and treat you well.  Your popularity with others will increase.  People like to be friends with other people who have good manners.

In consideration of those who do not have good manners, remember this:  you can sink to their level and become like them or you can maintain your self-respect by doing what you know is right.  Forgive their transgressions because most of the wrongs are emotional stings to the pride or slight physical intrusions.  Such things can be overlooked and in doing so you can help craft in yourself one of the greatest forms of all; YOUR good manners!